Was I Right to Leave? Dumped My Date After She Was 45 Minutes Late
|Navigating the complexities of dating can be like threading a needle in a dark room. Every decision holds weight, making it challenging to choose the best course of action. In today’s story, punctuality became the tipping point on a first date.
He shared his experience:
I had a first date planned with a woman I met through a dating website. We agreed to meet for coffee at 2 p.m. I arrived on time. At 2:10 p.m., she texted me to check if I was at the cafe. I replied yes, and she informed me she was still at home but would leave shortly and arrive in about 20 minutes.
Basically, her text meant she was waiting to make sure I was present before leaving the house. I was put off. I took the risk of showing up on time, not knowing if she would. Shouldn’t she have done the same? Am I wrong?
I drank my coffee and left at 2:30. She still hadn’t arrived. At 2:45, I received a text from her asking where I was. I replied, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t there as promised.”
She responded with a series of scathing texts, telling me how terrible I was and how I had done everything wrong. She said I should have texted her to let her know I was leaving, among other complaints.
Do women really expect men to sit and wait 45 minutes for them to arrive late — especially when the only reason for their lateness seems to be to make you wait? It felt like a game or a test. Either way, she failed mine. I’d love to hear from women on this one.
With the lady not showing up for numerous reasons as to why, thinking from the woman’s perspective, she possibility having difficulty finding this restaurant. I wouldn’t be hasty to get a wrong impression of what is happening and give her the benefit of the doubt. You will be able to find out more once you both meet with a clear mind and not jumping to conclusions.
I am a woman and what she did was wrong. On a first date, impression is everything. I would have done the same and left without texting. She also has no right in being angry. She’s obviously selfish and didn’t value your time at all, only concerned about her feelings. I think you dodged a bullet. The right one will come along.