Navigating In-Law Expectations: Balancing My Wardrobe Choices with My Husband’s Concerns

It’s quite common for young people to have disagreements with their parents about their appearance. But what if it’s your in-laws expressing dissatisfaction with how you dress? Should you change to meet their expectations, or stay true to yourself?

Megan, one of our readers, is currently facing this predicament. Here’s what she shared:

“Hi, I need your advice on a situation I’m dealing with. I’m happily married to a man who is 10 years older than me. We live in a nice house with a pool and a hot tub that I enjoy after a long, busy working day. I usually swim, get in the hot tub, sunbathe in a bikini, and walk around the house in shorts and a crop top.

Recently, my mother-in-law came to stay with us for a month. She is from an older generation, very conservative, and sometimes passive-aggressive. Now my husband insists I don’t show off in a bikini when his mom is home and that I dress more conservatively when we have meals together. I’m torn between respecting her feelings and maintaining my comfort and authenticity in my own home. What should I do?”

This situation really frustrates me. I don’t believe my outfits are harming anyone. I don’t want to be rude, but this is my house, and I want to feel free and relaxed here. I told my husband that his mom is a guest in our home, and I don’t want to change my behavior. These restrictions are affecting my mental well-being, and I find them overly prudish.

Additionally, I already make an effort to accommodate my mother-in-law. I cook meat for her even though I’m vegetarian, and I moved my office setup to give her a more comfortable room.

Am I wrong to prioritize my personal comfort in my own home?
Looking forward to hearing your opinion on this.

Best regards,
Megan