When My Boyfriend ‘Forgot’ His Wallet Again, I Had Enough—And Walked Out

For months, I thought I was just overreacting to what seemed like a minor inconvenience—my boyfriend “forgetting” his wallet every time we went out to dinner. But after nine months of being in a relationship with him, I started noticing a troubling pattern. Every time we went out with his two kids, he would conveniently forget his card, leaving me to pick up the tab. At first, I didn’t mind. I was happy to treat them occasionally, but soon, it started to feel like I was being taken advantage of.

It all came to a head one evening after I had just received a payment from my second job. We went to dinner with his kids, and knowing him by now, I texted him to remind him to bring his wallet. He laughed it off, brushing it off like it was no big deal.

When we got to the restaurant, his kids immediately started ordering all sorts of expensive items from the menu. I was already feeling uneasy, but I couldn’t help but ask him again if he had his wallet. He checked his pockets, looking genuinely surprised, and then admitted, “I guess I left it in the other pair of jeans I thought I was going to wear.”

I had had enough. The last straw. I told him I wasn’t going to pay for dinner again and started to grab my things, ready to leave. As I walked toward the door, he stopped me, asking what I was doing. I simply replied, “I’m not paying for you and your kids again.”

He was furious. He called me selfish and accused me of not thinking about his kids. Apparently, he was so embarrassed that he had to cancel the food order and take them home hungry. When he called me later, he yelled at me, saying I was selfish for leaving him in that situation. I told him I had a right to be frustrated and that it wasn’t fair to expect me to pay every single time we went out.

When I shared my story on Reddit, people were quick to take my side. Many agreed that I had every right to stand up for myself, and that my boyfriend was taking advantage of me. But even now, he’s still upset, and I can’t help but wonder if I did the right thing.

What would you have done in my shoes? Should I have paid for the meal and addressed it later, or was walking out the only way to make a point?

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